Coining the term "de-friended"
I’d like to pose a question. How many of you have actually been de-friended, meaning someone has deleted you from their online circle of “friends” whether that be on MySpace, or on any social network? Well, my friend count dropped down one the other day. And, I have to say I have accepted it, but I was a little bit shocked. Yep, Adam de-friended me on MySpace. Adam is my ex-boyfriend. We dated for a year and a half and when I came back from a long vacation I realized, “hey, there’s probably a reason I left my boyfriend in the U.S. while I went and explored Italy.” Well, there were a lot of reasons for our breakup and I know he knows why I ended it, but as breakups always go we all have our own ideas of what went wrong. All I know is that it was a good move for me. At times, I get a little sad and I miss him, but every time he does stupid, immature things like de-friending me, I’m reminded that it was the right thing to do.
I was thinking the other day about all the ways MySpace has changed relationships, particularly my own. I remember I once got really pissed off at Adam for adding slutty girls to his MySpace page. These are the girls that have about 10,000 friends and emphasize how much they love sex. And you know I’m totally fine with guys who accept one or two of these requests, particularly if they have a lot of friends. Pornography is pornography and I don’t have major issues with it as long as it is not an obsession. But, if slutty girls are outnumbering regular friends then there’s a problem, especially when they drift next to your girlfriend in the top eight. That’s not okay. He didn’t seem to understand why it bothered me.
I guess, I was a little bit comforted by his presence on my page, even though we weren’t really talking. I recently told him my news that I’m moving to New York. I’m sure he thinks he drove me there, but the reality is I freed myself from the relationship which allowed me to be more free alltogether. And, when an opportunity that you’ve wanted your whole life comes up, you have to take it, regardless of the situation.
I was thinking the other day about all the ways MySpace has changed relationships, particularly my own. I remember I once got really pissed off at Adam for adding slutty girls to his MySpace page. These are the girls that have about 10,000 friends and emphasize how much they love sex. And you know I’m totally fine with guys who accept one or two of these requests, particularly if they have a lot of friends. Pornography is pornography and I don’t have major issues with it as long as it is not an obsession. But, if slutty girls are outnumbering regular friends then there’s a problem, especially when they drift next to your girlfriend in the top eight. That’s not okay. He didn’t seem to understand why it bothered me.
I guess, I was a little bit comforted by his presence on my page, even though we weren’t really talking. I recently told him my news that I’m moving to New York. I’m sure he thinks he drove me there, but the reality is I freed myself from the relationship which allowed me to be more free alltogether. And, when an opportunity that you’ve wanted your whole life comes up, you have to take it, regardless of the situation.
posted by Erin at 7:38 PM
1 Comments:
I love the new term! De-friended...how perfect! And, I'd just like to say, for the record, that anyone who dare de-friend you must be crazy! You are a great friend and I will miss you buches when you go to NY! But you're right...it's the best choice for you. I'm so proud of you for all the good decisions that you've made for yourself lately! You rock, girly!
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